Yesterday I had the experience of feeling like a misfit. I
thought I was heading into the Convention Center in Overland Park Kansas for
the National N-Scale Model Railroad annual convention. When I entered the
parking lot I was directed to a spot by multiple men in suits. And it was
nearly full. After parking, I looked around at a sea of people that reminded me
of a Sunday morning in the 1950s. But it was Saturday. And men were
wearing colorful suits with dress shirts and stylish ties. Women wore an array
of beautiful dresses—many with attractive hats. Boy and girls were all dressed
up too as if they were going to a wedding.
I’d come along way so I plunged into the sea and entered the
Convention Center despite my well-worn outdoor hiking shirt, hiking shorts, sneakers, and wide-brimmed hat—my
summer gear. People greeted me with kindly smiles-- though it was obvious I didn’t look like I belonged here. I
looked for signs—nothing. At the top of the escalator I asked an officious-looking
suit if he knew about the train convention. He smiled and pointed to the
Sheraton next door. Gracias. It turns out all these nice people were headed to
a Spanish Jehovah’s Witness Convention.
I found the railroad folks. And despite the friendly faces
of the JWs, my life was on a different track.
Throughout the week I have been thinking about what to share
with a group of conservative Christians who had invited me back to share some
thoughts on a Christian response to sexual minorities—this in view of the
tragedy in Orlando. Last year we spent three hours discussing same-sex
orientation, sexual attraction, and same-sex marriage -- now they were interested in more dialogue about behaving like Christians.
We’re all aware of those Bible verses that prohibit same-sex
sex. And we are familiar with the arguments by those who put forward challenges
to various translations and interpretations. These are college educated
folks—some with doctoral degrees.
So I began with my short story and everybody had a good
laugh. But wouldn’t it be sad if people came into our churches and group
discussions but felt like they didn’t fit in? Hospitality requires us to make
people feel at home. Here are a few thoughts I shared.
A Christian response
ought to be grounded in love of God.
Matt 22:36-38 (NIV)
36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” 37 Jesus
replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your
soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment.
As Christians, we
won’t get far in loving others until we focus on our primary faith-duty of
loving God. People full of the love of God have been able to overcome cultural
and ethnic barriers and stop hurting others. Jesus consistently reached out to
heal those who were on the margins of society. Peter learned to love non-Jews
(sheet and animal story). Paul learned to stop persecuting Christians
(light-strike story). No doubt Peter and Paul thought they were on the right track. But they weren't.
I start with this
commandment because I think we too often focus on people without recognizing
that our duty to others flows from our duty toward God. Commandments entail an obligation or a duty.
A Christian response ought to be grounded in love of others.
Matt 22: 39-40.
39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
The second greatest commandment is the foundation of Christian
morality. To love others as we love ourselves includes an understanding of
justice as fairness (think philosopher John Rawls). Christian morality includes
concerns for fairness and equality. We recognize that the rights and privileges
we want are those others want as well. In this context, we must love others—
that includes people with whom we disagree.
I’m being practical here. We want to rent or buy a place to
live, earn a living, enjoy friends, and so forth. So why are some Christians
seemingly so uncaring when it comes to making sure sexual minorities are guaranteed
basic rights? Of course they need special protection—without it they are denied
those basic rights we have. Don't forget Orlando. Some people not only want to deny rights to sexual minorities, they actually want to kill them. Do unto others…
A Christian response
ought to consider how people are hurt by unjust rules or laws.
Mark 2:23-27; Matt 12: 1-13.
Jesus knew the rule about honoring the Sabbath—it was God’s
law. But he tried to help others see the law was made for man. (I’d include
women. But that’s another story.) Strict adherence to rules without considering
the consequences can lead to harming rather than caring for others. Rules are
important for a just society but the blind application of rules yields horrible
results.
Let me give you another example. For years the only biblical
justification for the ending of a marriage was adultery. And even when a
husband committed adultery, clergy often encouraged wives to forgive and remain
in the marriage. In the last few decades, most Christians came to realize that
it was morally wrong to force women to remain with an abusing spouse—that’s
after centuries of abuse! The Bible does not say a woman can divorce her
husband for reasons of abuse. But caring people have reasoned that this exception to
the rule make sense. (Christians still argue about remarriage but that would
take me too far off track.)
A Christian response
ought to consider individual conscience.
Romans 14:5
Christians have been divided over interpretations of
Scripture since Jesus was on earth. Paul’s rule in Romans 14:5 advises people
to be fully convinced in their own minds.
Many of us in Western nations have religious freedom, which
includes freedom to live according to our conscience. I’m not talking about
some frivolous acts made up to test a legal limit. I’m talking about serious matters
like killing other humans. People like the Amish have permission to live
differently within negotiated parameters. Respect of conscience is important.
In this context, I think Christians need to respect the
various views of their fellow Christians who have deeply held convictions about
birth control, divorce and remarriage, and sexual orientation among other
contemporary issues. If a group wishes to set certain conservative moral boundaries I say let them do
so as long as they are not harming others or forcing others to accept the guidance of their conscience.
A Christian response
ought to include spiritual virtues or fruit.
Matt 5-7; Gal 5:22-23
Any list of Christian fruit or virtues provides a challenge
for most of us. Sometimes what people say is contradicted by their tone of
voice or the actions they take. Virtue is deep. Virtue is more than words.
The texts I refer to are too long to summarize here. What I
am saying is that there are so many positive virtues that could grab the focus of
our attention and contribute to the historical notion of a moral person. A
person who possess moral character.
So in summary I think we Christians ought to be about a
moral response grounded in just rules consistent with Jesus’ command to love
others as ourselves. And the rules ought to be tempered by evaluating the
consequences of acting on a rule in all circumstances. And finally, moral responses
might more readily flow from someone whose character reflects Christian virtues.
I’ve written about same-sex marriage and other issues in A House Divided
Notes and sources
The idea of the second commandment and equality comes from William K. Frankena, Ethics (1963). Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall.
The idea of considering consequences is of course a consequentialist approach derived from various authors such as Jeremy Bentham and John Stuart Mill (On Liberty) and more recently evaluated by Joshua Greene in Moral Tribes. See also Utilitarianism.
I also drew upon On Liberty when thinking about religious freedom.
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