Christians Porn & Marital Satisfaction

 


Samuel L. Perry (see RNS 2020) studied the relationship between Christians watching porn and marital happiness. For people who do not attend church, the level of happiness is not much different between those who watch or do not watch porn.

Marital Happiness

For those who attend church more than once a week, there is a gap. Those who watch porn are less happy with their marriage than those who did not watch porn. Perry did not note that the frequent church attenders who watched porn were a bit happier than those who don’t go to church. He’s charting predicted probabilities, but we don’t know the degree of error. Still, the gap is somewhat interesting.

Sex Life Satisfaction.

In another chart, he illustrates the predicted level of sex life satisfaction for two groups of people based on how often they visit an adult website. For those who visit several times a day, there is a gap showing much less satisfaction for those who attend church several times a week compared to those who never attend.

So, what does it all mean?

Perry proposes a concept called "moral incongruence” and offers the following opinion”

My frequent co-author, Bowling Green State University psychology professor Joshua Grubbs, and I have identified what we call “moral incongruence”: the experience of intentionally violating one’s deeply held moral values. Moral incongruence results in depressive symptoms and spiritual discouragement often due to shame and isolation. In other words, whatever the negative effects of porn alone, they are consistently far worse for those who seem to be violating their own moral values in watching it. (emphasis added)

It is possible that there are negative effects of high porn use among frequent church goers, but Perry has not demonstrated this to be true in the article. Why? Simply because he has shown a correlation but did not show that a cause-effect relationship exists. In later paragraphs he refers to “moral incongruence effects.” In fairness, it seems reasonable that people who violate the group’s social norms would experience a moral incongruence effect. However, from a strictly scientific perspective, Perry needs to report experimental evidence.

A Missing Variable

Correlational studies that show relationships can be helpful because they encourage thinking about possible relationships between variables. In the article, Perry did not discuss the possibility that Christians who are not happy with their sex lives may look for other ways to enjoy sex. Thus, they may turn to porn rather than obtain psychotherapy, commit adultery, or get a divorce and find a new partner.

Is there a Practical Difference?

As you look at the predicted numbers in the graphs, there isn’t much of a difference. For example, the gap between the porn and no porn watchers who are “very happy” with their marriage and go to church a lot is only .11 (.70 - .59 = .11). That .11 is not much on the graph so what does it look like in terms of inner distress or the ability to work? Perry tells us about other studies and the symptoms of distress. Perhaps there is a problem, but then again, people can adapt to a way of life, rationalize what they are doing, and cope in various ways with incongruities in life.

What are they watching?

There’s an intriguing finding in the next section. Some Christians who never watch porn report being addicted to porn! One value of this finding is a reminder that what one person considers porn another one does not. I am reminded of an evangelical woman who declared “that’s porn” when walking by a scantily clad model in a store’s display window. A friend told me that an evangelical college did not allow textbooks in their human sexuality classes for years because of the explicit images. Times have changed. And what is or is not porn must be defined by researchers.

Morality

One of my research interests has been in Moral FoundationsTheory. Conservative Christians can easily find that porn violates the sexual purity foundation. Being pure in mind includes pure thoughts and sex has long been a purity issue for evangelicals. However, progressive Christians and non-Christians may share common cause with conservatives when porn includes exploitation, abuse, and harm. Perry’s article encourages thinking so I recommend it.

 Read more about Christians Sexuality and Morality in

     A House Divided: Sexuality, Morality, and Christian Cultures









Related research

Kelly, H.L., Sutton, G. W, Hicks, L., Godfrey, A. & Gillihan, C. (2018). Factors predicting the moral appraisal of sexual behavior in Christians. Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 37, (2), 162-177. Academia Link     ResearchGate Link  

 Sutton, G. W., Kelly, H. L., & Huver, M. (2019). Political identities, religious identity, and the pattern of moral foundations among conservative Christians. Journal of Psychology and Theology, 48, pp. 169-187. Accepted 6 September 2019. Online October 16, 2019. Issue published September 1, 2020. ResearchGate Link     Academia Link



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